(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)
Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.
Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.
Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.
Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)
Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.
Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.
Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.
Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.
Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via punkrockmermaid)
The star wars bit won me over <3 (via lainerblue)
A package came in the mail Yesterday. It contained a Wartenberg wheel. My wife ordered the device and was rather too gleeful when it arrived. She is doing morning stuff and has me waiting for her command to join her in the bedroom. It looks sharp and I am little bit afraid, she is the one after all who switched to extra strength Bengay to treat her balls (I just carry them around for her, and make sounds as she plays with them) with when she slaps them until they are sore.
Edit: She is in the bedroom, and I hear metal clinking, she has made a couple trips hauling stuff into the bedroom. I am getting more nervous. Not sure what is going to happen but it sounds like she has put a lot of thought into my next torments.
Edit2: She came into the den just as I finished writting the last edit, and asked me what I was doing. So of course I told her, and she had me read this post to her, and it made her smile. Then she sent me off to the garage to find rope… Which I found for her, both nylon clothes line and hemp rope. Now she has sent me back to the den, to await her call.
Edit3: She stands beside wearing only panties, and watches as I make this last entry. Don’t know when I will be back…
[The hot response from my Tease Theory post about words motivated me to finally get around to posting the definitions promised at the bottom of my introduction of Med Student. She had written these down to help describe the way we play. The words are hers except that (1) I organized them into categories of Non-Hypnotic Terms, Hypnotic Terms/Concepts, and Hypnotic Commands, (2) all footnotes and words in square brackets are mine not hers, and (3) I replaced my name with male pronouns.]Non-Hypnotic Terms
Cream- Bengay (capsaicin) cream, rubbed onto my clit and pussy. It burns at first and tingles, but after the burning stops my pussy is incredibly sensitive.
Pepper- Just regular ground black pepper rubbed onto my clit. It burns but not quite as intensely as the cream. [When given a choice, she usually picks cream instead of pepper, but then again she’s a masochist. ;-)] It doesn’t really make me anymore sensitive but it does burn for a longer period of time.
Rabbit breath- A type of game where I use a rabbit vibe fully on and in my pussy. Whenever I have to take the rabbit out so that I won’t cum I must hold my breath. The only time I can breathe is when the rabbit is inside my pussy. The challenge of this game is that the longer it goes on the more turned on and close to cumming I stay which makes it harder to keep the rabbit in my pussy, but the closer to cumming I am the faster I breathe which makes it harder to hold my breath.
[For those of you who have doms that you (at least) voice-chat with, I’ve previously posted this as an assignment. Try it!]
“Squeeze drill”- Something he randomly says [or texts], always seemingly at the worst times. It means that I am supposed to clench my pussy 250 times without cumming, sometimes without edging.Hypnotic Terms/Concepts
Orgasm Block- A hypnotic block that prevents me from cumming no matter what I do until he removes it or gives me permission to cum.
Control room- A figurative “room” inside my head, which I know from previous conversations he and I picture differently, but the basic gist is that from here he can control what I feel or do not feel. For example he can make me more sensitive to touches or make it so that I cannot feel anything.
The energy- A hypnotic force that comes from the control room. When he talks about it I can feel it all over my body typically in the specific way he is talking about, and occasionally I will just feel it randomly like a sort of tingle.
Hands possessed by energy- If I lay down and start slowly and gently rubbing or stroking my pussy after a while the energy will take over my hands until I no longer control them, then it will continue to tease me sometimes gently, sometimes roughly for as long as it wants, most of the time until after I’m crying from frustration.
Wetness- He hypnotised me to feel my own wetness as being eroticly tingly and it makes my clit and pussy ache for attention. This feeling only makes me wetter and more horny which of course makes it feel more tingly and needy.
Worship- An activity that I must do at least once but no more than twice a day (unless granted permission for additional times). I kneel with my hands resting on my thighs, my back straight, knees apart, and eyes closed. I say once out loud “I worship your control” which causes me to go into a hypnotic state. Once in the trance I hear his voice say “thank you pet” among other things. I can also feel him teasing me, gently or roughly depending on the day. This activity is about me giving myself to him every day.
Worship Circles- Rubbing perfect circles on my clit, I must use the right pressure and the right direction, etc. It is everything that would normally make me cum. The only thing I can change is the speed so that I don’t cum. I must count down every circle. Even though they can be frustrating and cruel, they are almost like a gift from him, and I always feel the desire to thank him for allowing me to do them.Hypnotic Commands
Arousal Levels- “1”, “0”, “-1”, “-5”, etc. Hypnotic concept. He says a number that corresponds to how close to cumming I am. 0 is an edge, the negative numbers are harder edges and the positive numbers are under an edge. [“Normal” means leting her body go back to whatever is natural.] If I didn’t have an orgasm block I’m sure I would cum just from him saying a number, but we’ve never tried it without the block.
“Desperate time for you”/”Desperate time for me”- A phase that when spoke by him or I causes me to feel an intense needy ache in my clit that continues to increase until I am able to touch it and rub the ache away.
“You worship my control”/”I worship your control”- A phrase said by him or I that reiterates how much I like, want, and need his control over me. The phrase makes me feel calm and comforted yet horny, and increases my desire to please him.
[unheard- There is one more thing that neither of us remembered to list but should be mentioned: Sometimes I’ll give her commands (such as an arousal level) in a way that she isn’t consciously aware of. At any point during a conversation, without warning, she might find herself brought to arousal level and held there, or her wrists feeling suddenly grabbed and held firmly above her head, or a feather softly tickling her clit, or all of the above, without hearing me say a thing other than normal conversation, followed by a too-innocent “What’s wrong, pet?” when she gasps in surprise. :-) ]
: I haven’t been giving her squeeze drills lately because right now she’s no longer ‘my tease toy’ - we just play sometimes. This turned out to be a great piece of protocol, though. She likes sudden and unexpected commands, and that I’m thinking of her, and I like to tease her and let her know she’s on my mind. Texting a simple “Squeeze drill!” is a way to all of that, plus it built up her kegel muscles! ;-) At first it was only 50 squeezes but then had to increase it because I felt it wasn’t difficult enough. ;-) Since she can edge from squeezing, the difficulty with squeeze drills are no longer muscle fatigue but having to do them slowly enough that she won’t edge without permission.
: Her wording here about the energy surprised me. I visualize the energy as near-sentient erotic energy and tension. I don’t think of it as originating from the control room, but I think it’s hot that she does since her control room is now My control room. The difference between our definitions/interpretations probably comes from how the next term, “hands posessed by energy,” feels like her hands are controlled by something that’s not her.
: She used the word “must” because this was written while I still controlled her. She’s no longer required to worship once or twice a day as a ritual.
: This is soooo effective it feels like cheating! If I tell her to edge and she stimulates herself until she’s there, that’s hot of course, but I can also just blurt out “negative 10!” and she IS there and beyond, panting, shoved hard against that orgasm block. This is great fun for phone discussions while she’s with others, listening to her try to keep her composure when the only reason she isn’t cumming non-stop is because there’s a hypnotic orgasm block in place. >:-} Fucking yum. One thing I didn’t expect was the way that some numbers are better than others. “-5” is her favorite; it’s a good solid edge. “0” is more frustrating than “1” or “-1” because it’s teetering right on the weakest edge possible. My favorite surprise? “5” is more sadistic than “1” because it’s teasingly not as teasing as it could be.
: I turned “You worship my control” into a trigger because sometimes I want her to sink down into her frustration, and I also wanted to give her a way to sink underneath the urgent sharpness of painfully needing to cum and instead float within the deep ache. Using a stereo as an analogy, “Desperate time for you” turns up volume and treble, and “you worship my control” turns down treble and turns up deep, massaging bass. Sometimes I’m intense enough that she spontaneously blurts this out because otherwise she can’t stand it, which only draws her down, deeper into my control, her body resonating from the mere vibrations of my voice. Other times… well, sometimes I take this phrase away from her during a phone conversation. She’s learned to fear (and love?) when I do this because it means I’m in a particularly cruel mood. (See Tease Theory: Crying)
This is so good because it is so real, a woman and her toy. She rides his face for her pleasure, no concerns about his pleasure, the camera or the audience.
I woke up this morning with my Mistress sucking and nibbling on my neck. I don’t think there is ever a better way to wake up on a Sunday morning - or any morning at that. My pussy was gushing almost instantly. I told her so, and she decides to play with it for a while, but reeeaally slowly and…
Everything behind your panties seems to pulse with need. The way your skin tingles all over merely from the caressing of your thighs makes you realise that your entire body is an entity of pure sexuality. You are a slave of pleasure, sex is you very nature… your body aches for it.
The more those fingers trace between your thighs, sliding along your confined sex, the more you want to scream out for those fingers to slide into you. Everything inside you wants to leap out and make your fingers masturbate yourself hard and fast… you know better than to give in, you live for this submission…
Happiness is making your wife orgasm, taking your pleasure from doing it for Her, seeing, feeling and hearing Her cum under your touch - and not once thinking about asking to be unlocked yourself.
It’s kind of funny how as you get older, you start enjoying thing that you hated as a kid, like taking naps and getting spanked.
It’s not the restraints that make you helpless, what makes you so utterly helpless is just how much your tender flower craves the softness of my warm, slippery tongue.
She takes her time, bringing them to the edge repeatedly, one after the other, moving onto the next and back again. Their throbbing cocks pulsate with need as she wonders who will be the last to hold back.
The 3 of them must stay hard throughout while holding back the orgasm which constantly surges through that twitching shaft. The hardest part is looking into those hungry, lustful eyes of hers, knowing that if they manage to outlast the other 2, the prize of fucking her will be theirs. The thought of penetrating her tight, wet pussy makes it even more unbearable.
If I had my live to live over again… Next time I would find you sooner so that I could love you longer.
WHY SUFFER ORGASM DENIAL?Besides the obvious answer being that they enjoy it, it’s something new and exciting to add some spark in the dark. More specifically, it simulates the same excitement and uncertainty they experienced when they first met and began dating. The excited energy the two feel between them can then increase the attention the man and the woman provide to each other, heightening the feelings of affection and love, which help to build a stronger overall relationship.The tease part of the denial hits deep into the social dating psyche, since flirting is at its core a basic tease and denial. A man and a woman flirt, ultimately, in hopes of establishing a new sexual relationship, which may or may not ever come to be. Neither of the two in a new couple knows where the relationship will go until they get there. And certainly, they don’t know if they’ll get to cum together or not, either. It is that uncertainty which makes meeting a new lover seem so exciting. When an established couple introduces T&D into their relationship, they re-establish that same uncertainty, which can rekindle that same infatuated spark of sexual excitement in their relationship.T&D also empowers the woman, which can be a huge turn on for both parties involved. Due to the connection of intense feelings with sexual desire, the increased sexual desire intensifies the emotional feelings in the relationship, and this too can be of benefit to both partners.The control self-imposed by submitting to orgasm denial is also not unlike a marriage vow, which is of course itself a vow of limits as a show of devotion. In a typical marriage vow, one is voluntarily binding themselves to having sex only with their spouse, and no other. In the case of orgasm control, the “vow” goes beyond just WHO you’ll have sex with, and takes it to the next level where the submitting partner is vowing, no matter who they are with, to only cum when their partner allows it. So, like the marriage vow, the vow of orgasm control is a self-imposed limit as a show of devotion.By introducing unpredictable orgasms into the relationship, the level of arousal is more intense, and also makes those orgasms that he does have that much more enjoyable, just as a birthday party is more exciting when it’s a surprise party! Knowing that he is not allowed to satisfy himself, but that she alone is attentive to his needs, and is taking care of him, helps him appreciate her all the more in their relationship. Denial of the orgasm also obviously avoids the refractory period; the inevitable period of time during which the man is unresponsive to sexual stimulus. By avoiding the orgasm, he remains in his heightened state of arousal much more of the time. So, while he may not be having orgasms as often as he used to, if she is dutifully and frequently teasing his cock, he would certainly have to agree that he is more aroused more often.